I Am, Host

A poem about how pain can feel like it takes over your identity. Written in a flare. Any Spoonies who can relate, please make yourself known in the comments!

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Pelvic Pain Awareness Month – the Spoonie Tag

For me, every month is pelvic pain awareness month. Nevertheless, I thought I’d honour this by completing the ‘Spoonie’ blogging tag and carry on my ‘Diary of a Broken Vagina’ series. Prepare to know me a lot better.

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The Letter I Never Sent

For two years, I had the privilege of dating a wonderful young man. This is the letter I wrote him but never sent – redrafted with added years of hindsight (which, as we all know, is 20/20). It’s about love, and remorse, and theft, and getting things totally, totally wrong.

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Waiting for God(ot)

For the disciples, the hours must have seemed like eons. The day after Jesus’ death was the day everything looked like it had gone horribly, horribly wrong. Holy Saturday is the day when the disciples are waiting, and God doesn’t show.

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On Losing a Friend

How do you reconcile the different sorts of love? How do you risk loving someone you depend on? How do you deal with the constant confusion of desperation and gratitude?

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Useful Reads

Want to know more about chronic pelvic pain, self-help, and vaginas more generally? Of course you do. Here’s my entirely-not-definitive list of useful articles, books and even the odd video.

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Diary of a Broken Vagina: An Introduction

For about seven years now, I have lived with a dirty secret. When it first came to my attention aged 17, I kept it to myself, letting it rot inside me and making me feel utterly freakish and disgusting.

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Buzzfeed Raises Awareness About Vulvodynia, Vaginismus, Endometriosis

Originally posted on vulvar vernacular:
Lara Parker has long been one of the few people that I regularly follow from Buzzfeed. Her candid, humorous, and hard-hitting articles and videos about her experiences living with vulvodynia, vaginismus, endometriosis, and a plethora of similar conditions make her a beacon of light and a voice for the millions and…

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2016: A Year in Books

One of the best things that has happened to me since leaving full-time education is that I have rediscovered the joy of reading. In this extended piece, I look back on the books of 2016 and how they reflect my personal growth.

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2016 in Review

2016 has not been my worst year. 2014 was the year that truly taught me how to deal with feeling small. Finals, heartbreak, losing family, losing myself. As I look back on these trying times, I share what I’ve learned about practising gratitude and keeping hope alive.

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