Health Update

I wasn’t ready to write these words on the Internet back then. But I am now. And I want to. Not out of a prurient desire to share intimate details of my sex life – sorry to disappoint – but because I truly never believed it would be possible. I believed that lots of people could get better and heal from vulvodynia/ vaginismus; I just didn’t think I was one of them. And perhaps there’s someone out there who feels exactly the same, and needs to hear me testify to the change in my narrative.

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Diary of a Broken Vagina: An Introduction

For about seven years now, I have lived with a dirty secret. When it first came to my attention aged 17, I kept it to myself, letting it rot inside me and making me feel utterly freakish and disgusting.

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OMG: NaNoWriMo… YOLO/ FML

Yesterday I made the exciting and slightly terrifying decision to sign up for National Novel Writing Month (“NaNoWriMo” for short – ‘cos even writers love abbreviations…). I can do it, for the good of the cause, i.e. actually finishing a bloomin’ story for the first time in my life.

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Devil’s Snare (or, The Paradox of Chronic Pain)

That’s the paradox of chronic pain. Stress and tension makes the pain worse. But pain makes you stressed and tense!  In the words of the love of my life, Ron Weasley: ‘Kill us faster?  Oh, NOW I can relax!’

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Myofascial Mystery

Is it possible my vulvodynia is somehow caused by muscle tension in the pelvic floor?

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The Quest for a Cure

More often than not, we chronic pain warriors have another huge fight on our hands: getting the right treatment. It’s a long old slog. Like Frodo on his perilous quest, the path is twisted and arduous, and you’ve usually got one dim-witted friend dragging you back pining about potatoes, a slimy little creature intermittently spitting venom at you, and a whole host of characters to meet before you get one treatment to cure them all. 

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