Health Update

I wasn’t ready to write these words on the Internet back then. But I am now. And I want to. Not out of a prurient desire to share intimate details of my sex life – sorry to disappoint – but because I truly never believed it would be possible. I believed that lots of people could get better and heal from vulvodynia/ vaginismus; I just didn’t think I was one of them. And perhaps there’s someone out there who feels exactly the same, and needs to hear me testify to the change in my narrative.

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Host

A poem about how pain can feel like it takes over your identity. Written in a flare. Any Spoonies who can relate, please make yourself known in the comments!

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Useful Reads

Want to know more about chronic pelvic pain, self-help, and vaginas more generally? Of course you do. Here’s my entirely-not-definitive list of useful articles, books and even the odd video.

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Diary of a Broken Vagina: An Introduction

For about seven years now, I have lived with a dirty secret. When it first came to my attention aged 17, I kept it to myself, letting it rot inside me and making me feel utterly freakish and disgusting.

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REVIEW – Vagina: A New Biography by Naomi Wolf

Simply put, this is a stonking addition to modern feminist literature. Wolf provides a sweeping biography of female sexuality and how it has been perceived, feared, subjugated, and embraced, throughout the centuries of civilisation. In this age of Pornography as Teacher, we have never needed Wolf’s perspective more.

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OMG: NaNoWriMo… YOLO/ FML

Yesterday I made the exciting and slightly terrifying decision to sign up for National Novel Writing Month (“NaNoWriMo” for short – ‘cos even writers love abbreviations…). I can do it, for the good of the cause, i.e. actually finishing a bloomin’ story for the first time in my life.

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Devil’s Snare (or, The Paradox of Chronic Pain)

That’s the paradox of chronic pain. Stress and tension makes the pain worse. But pain makes you stressed and tense!  In the words of the love of my life, Ron Weasley: ‘Kill us faster?  Oh, NOW I can relax!’

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